I wish I was good enough.
This thought has existed since the beginning of humans.
Instinctively, we question ourselves. We doubt ourselves. We want more for ourselves.
Name another species that does that. That doubts themselves. While we can’t interview whether a lion was doubtful of his last kill or why your dog choked on catching the ball, we can assume no other creature does this except the human being.
Why? Because it’s part of what defines being a human.
Somewhere deep within your brain, there is something telling you aren’t good enough, that you won’t be able to make it, that you can’t measure up. It kept our ancestors alive for centuries. If you didn’t question your ability to survive in a dangerous world, then you wouldn’t be ready for the next attack on your village or be able to catch your next meal.
Our brain has been doing us a favor. Yet this programming is outdated. Just like operating on outdated computer software can be slow, frustrating, and even harmful, our brains are operating on this software. They were designed to point out flaws, seek danger, and see what we can do to avoid these things.
Yet now this doesn’t push and motivate us. Without death as a primary consequence of our actions, self-questioning, doubting, and asking ourselves if we are good enough will only deepen our depression and sink us down, rather than building ourselves up.
The beautiful thing is we can always update software. Our brains are fantastic tools and are malleable. Sure, our neural pathways run deep, but feeling enough is always available.
So when the time comes that your brain offers:
”I’m not good enough”
You can ease the tension by adding
”and that’s okay.”
Thanks brain for the input, but I am in fact good enough. I’m always good enough, no matter what. Being good enough is always an option.
And it’s okay when you don’t think you are good enough. Your brain is doing exactly what it was programmed to do.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There never was and there never will be.
Chew on that.